Safety is a difficult concept - sometimes the thing that makes us most unsafe is our own thoughts or mind. I had to face up to a difficult truth this weekend which is that when things are feeling a bit out of control and/or I am unhappy - I get more controlling. Which means that I nag the people closet to me. So today I decided to let go, try and relax and not to give evryone a hard time. After all it's not their fault when life gets difficult. Anyway apart from a little blip I managed it and we had a really nice day.